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How To Keep Your Divorce Simple

Even when you are represented by a top rated Tulsa Divorce Lawyer, your family law case CAN be a long process. When a case becomes long and drawn out the spouses can end up wasting a lot of resources on litigation.  These resources can include ‘money spent on court costs’ and ‘time spent preparing for and putting on hearings and trials’.   The good news is for you, all of this can be avoided.  The good news for you is that your divorce can likely be settled, outside of court.  In order to increase your odds of settling outside of court, you should set yourself up for success.

Set Yourself Up For Success

In order to help you set yourself up for success in divorce, we recommend you do the following:  

For starters, avoid thinking in terms of ‘winning’.  This requires an adjustment in mindset for most every divorcee.  It is very easy for embittered spouses to fall into the trap of trying to ‘win’ their family law case.  When they fall into this trap, both spouses will likely hire expensive divorce lawyers.  Thee spouses will also likely engage in ‘scorched earth tactics’ when communicating with each other.

You should avoid falling into this trap.  So long as your spouse will be reasonable, then you should also be reasonable.  So long as both spouses are reasonable, then there is no reason to ‘burn the bridge’.

Good Communication

Secondly, you should keep good communication open with your spouse.  This is true all throughout the divorce process.  This is true though, so long as your spouse is willing to do the same. 

When spouses are willing to communication civilly,  the odds of keeping your family law case simple will greatly increase.  When your divorce remains simple, then the odds of reaching full and final settlement greatly increase.

top rated tulsa divorce lawyerThird, you should avoid doing anything stupid.  This one seems like common sense.  However keep in mind that divorce is a highly emotional time.  When emotions run high, common sense naturally will run low.

When we say ‘avoid doing anything stupid’, here are certain examples for you consider:

1 – Do not get a DUI during the middle of your child custody case;

2 – Avoid showing up at the visitation exchange with your new significant other;

3 – Avoid hiring the cheap or convenient divorce attorney; and

4 – Do not use your cousin in order to hide financial assets from your spouse.

Again, under normal circumstances these actions would be “common sense”.  However during divorce cases and during child custody cases, “common sense” is often missing for natural reasons.  We advise you avoid falling into these pitfalls.  Falling into such pitfalls can greatly increase the level of drama in your family law case.  

Be Flexible

Lastly, we recommend you be flexible. Whenever you and your spouse discuss the divorce, you will at some point begin discussing settlement terms. When these discussions begin, be sure to be reasonable and be flexible in your demands. So long as you will be reasonable and flexible, your spouse will likely be reasonable as the well.  When this happens, then the odds of reaching settlement are greatly increased.

A Top Rated Tulsa Divorce Lawyer

Matt Ingham is a top rated Tulsa Divorce Lawyer.  He and his office staff focus entirely on divorce cases and child custody cases.  You can learn more about family law, by taking a look at the other articles provided on this website.   Also, you can contact Bulldog Divorce, through the ‘Contact The Attorney’ Page by clicking on the following link: Contact Divorce Attorney